The surreal feeling when you achieve a goal

My first 'Be At Your Best' program on 27&28 Aug 2016

Last weekend was a milestone achievement of a goal I set 8 years ago. Well, it started as a whisper, more of an idea after I went for Asiaworks’ Basic awareness program in 2008. It was a mere idea that I wanted to be an awareness trainer, that would make my life more meaningful …. but it was only a passing idea.

It kept coming back at random moments but with no significant impact. Then I continued with Asiaworks’ Leadership Program … and LP 139’s vision was to create a 'Loving & Caring World, One Person at a Time. This time the idea turned into a goal … but I had no idea how I was even going to start.

I’ve set and achieved goals before. But this was different. This was out of norm. On hindsight I was beginning to follow my heart. The goal was not logical, even random and I had no clue where to start. You see, I was a successful Finance Director who had financial success with a happy, comfy lifestyle. Why throw it out for something so random? …. Oh and where to start?

But I set a goal … started thinking how do I do this? Then nature offered a stepping stone. The company I was working for was acquired by an American MNC and they offered me … me … a Regional HR Manager’s job … mmm… a stepping stone … and I took it up with no experience nor knowledge of professional HR. Oh boy it was a fun yet steep learning curve. Step 1 : People skills acquired.

Then 2 years later the heart came knocking again … leave, move … but where?  So I quit my job intending to setup a coaching company, again a vague idea with no real clue. After some discussion, the VP counter offered and I moved into a Organization Development role for Asia Pacific. Here was my first experience conducting in-house training in a fun and effective manner. Then I discovered the term 'Culture Shaping' … changing the culture of the organisation by bringing individuals back to the basics of being human. Step 2: training skills and culture shaping idea.

Fun and impactful practical session in the Be At Your Best program

Then again the heart comes .. leave, move … much stronger this time … and I quit my high paying corporate job for an idea of a culture shaping company. Then all hell broke loose and I was lost for 2 months …floating in limbo ... until a friend dragged me into a goal setting workshop on 29^th July 2013. That day I met my mentor Elango Thiyagu and since then it has been a roller-coaster ride of discovering myself and what culture shaping actually meant.

In the past three years I’ve talked to hundreds of people, feeding my subconscious mind. Learned marketing from ground zero ; from meeting officers to CEOs. Meanwhile, getting aligned to the laws of nature, reprogramming myself to my new goals, learning how to manage my emotions and thoughts. Doing one day programs then rebranding and introducing the Be At Your Best program to help people live happier lives, setting and achieving personal and company goals while growing personally. My personal growth has been phenomenal and I’ve reached a different level of happiness.

'Be At Your Best' Day 1 on 27 Aug 2016

Last weekend was a milestone achievement because I arrived at my goal. I did a 2 days awareness program successfully. It made me reflect on how when you listen to your heart and set your mind to it, the whole of nature guides and helps you. On hindsight, nature guided step by step in getting the skills. Then I met my mentor, who passed on the program to me, a program much better than I have ever experienced and could have ever conceived … for free … he guided me step by step, building both myself and the program along the way. I feel blessed! To top that I have an awesome support team, volunteering their time and effort for free  ...  giving their best! Again I feel blessed!

Dinner with my awesome support team after the Be At Your Best Program

There is a long exciting way to go but I have arrived at a destination I set 8 years ago. Milestone achievement!

Nero was playing the fiddle when Rome was burning down

Nero fiddling while Rome burns

According to a well-known expression, Rome’s emperor at the time, Nero “fiddled while Rome burned.” The expression means Nero was busy playing music oblivious to the fact that his empire was in trouble and collapsing and his people suffering. Many would think how stupid of him!! The sad irony is I see people all around me doing this now.  

I speak to many people about the program I do … Be At Your Best …  how it widens their awareness which results in changes from within … they become happier, healthier and live their dream doing what they love having the time and money freedom … they find the bigger purpose of their existence and get aligned to nature’s plan for them. Their relationships improve … especially with their children. They understand their children better, understand their purpose here and their role in supporting their children. They become the intended role model for their child and built a truthful lasting relationship while being successful and guiding their children to success. I am living this so I know it is possible. When I share this to others, for the brief 10 minutes they are in my world … beautiful and living their dream.

When the program 'Be At Your Best'

knocks on your door, that's the right time!

Then I hang up and they resume their mundane life … the brief moment of bliss and awareness gone. Back to running around busy like a headless chicken but with no actual results. Busy at work, from one meeting to another, feeling very important but not achieving anything really important. Meanwhile, their emotions are pent up, bursting here and there, reacting to situations and people without being aware that they are doing it. In the process they destroy their health, the relationships around them and their own peace of mind. But yet they continue …. complaining yet they continue .. when I offer them solutions or ask them to join the program or the free talks we have they will counter with all kind of excuses … busy, need to work, sending my child to tuition, cousin’s wedding etc etc … it's as if they are doing it for me! It’s like peace of mind, happiness, health, success, time and money freedom is a nice notion … nice to have but not possible for them  … not their priority at the moment either.

Why are they like Nero? You see, while they are busy accumulating wealth for their family they are indeed neglecting their family. The pent up emotions, outburst and growing negativity is programed into their children. The wrong words and tone used, thinking that you are disciplining the child may in fact box him up and make him an obedient follower. This same parent, years later wonders why the child has no leadership qualities not aware that the parent has indeed programmed the child to be a follower. This is just one minute example of the many things we say and do that our child absorbs and learn from.

Then comes the relationship with the spouse and other family members … not being truthful, slowly but surely turns the sweetness to finding fault … creating a rift …  creating unspoken boundaries until the couple no longer have much in common … not to mention conversations … once the cracks start it is only a matter of time before the dam collapses.

Back to the workplace, being a very important and diligent employee, working late, chasing promotions, bonuses and increment … then getting disappointed, chasing deadlines and more deadlines, feeling so important in their role, so very involved in the events and politics of the company they work in that they forget a world outside that exist. Sacrificing time, family, health, happiness and growth only to find out years later that they have not come much far after all.  Most can’t manage their finances well so they just tie themselves up further into debts making sure they need to continue in the rat race. Happiness, health, family and dreams sacrificed. Not to mention a whole human existence wasted without spiritual growth … not religious practices but learning about yourself, connecting to your heart and listening to your heart, experiencing joy!

Over the years I have watched many of my participants initially excited with the possibilities for them but prioritising the daily seemingly pressing issues of life over long term happiness and success. They want success but not willing to change their current habit patterns, not investing time and effort only soon to give up on the notion of the success and returning to life as usual. Life as usual which is spiraling downwards but they are not aware.

Overused ... but what does it really mean?

I can see what is in store for them as they continue their path … that’s the curse of growing awareness. I was once in ignorant bliss too so I understand that from their level of awareness that they can’t see outside the bowl.

People are like fishes caught in their world

Oh yes … and there are others who know that they need help and ask God for help … I know this because they must have attracted my call and experience have showed me that the program finds people at the right time… but I don’t match their idea of how the help should be or whom it comes from so they can’t see the help offered and decline it saying they will talk to me when they are okay again. The point they forget is, if all is well then they don’t need me or the program.

At times it frustrates me and makes me feel maybe I should have tried harder. My biggest learning now is that I am not here to save the world … and I can’t save them all. I’m here only to work with people who are willing to change, grow and make happiness and success an absolute priority… I do my best but I am not doing any of this for them … I am doing it because my heart wants to … because I grow everyday in leaps and bounds as I learn to follow my heart.

As much as the world out there is lost in darkness, there is a small group of people round me …. which is fast growing in awareness and momentum …seeing them grow spiritually and materially …  attracting more people to their cause …. well, that gives me hope.

ET Ideas - a group of people focused on their personal and material growth.

Letting Go

Me being interviewed live on BFM - July 2016

It has been awesome, these past few weeks. I’ve had break through ideas in packaging and marketing my training programs. I have started doing the programs and discovering still the interesting ways I could deliver the message. I have seen some of the participants from the program grow personally and professionally. My personal growth, well what can I say, it has been hitting new highs constantly. 

Me at a Corporate Be At Your Best Workshop July 2016- trying something new

This is something I have learned about myself and learning to manage. Yes, I have letting go issues. You see, the past weeks the youngsters around me have shown astounding growth in confidence, in working towards their goals and personally as individuals. The Ascendance Team has been amazing in setting appointments, doing presentations and enrolling people to support their cause, much faster than I have done. ET Boost launched their test run and the Gen Y and Gen Z, I work with, were all excited and fired up coming up with interesting and creative segments.

Ascendance after their presentation at Rotary Meeting - July 2016

As I watched this, as much as I was feeling very proud of them, I was beginning to feel left out. I was beginning to feel not important and not needed anymore. At first I didn’t realize it, it slowly started creeping in until suddenly I was upset and crying and wondering why because it didn’t make sense even to me.

So, I took the case to Elango, my mentor who immediately diagnosed it as ‘Ah, you have letting go issue’. What? Me? I’ve thought of myself as someone who is ready to let go … let go of my responsibilities and waiting to hand over the baton to the younger generation. So, this was quite a shock for me. He explained this is how Gen X is … they want the younger generation to do well but not better than them. That words stung, I pondered …mmm.. maybe there is some truth there. I was discovering a little bit more about myself.

Then I asked, “so what do I do about it?” Elango replied, “firstly be aware and accept this part of you. Then remind yourself it is not about you but the younger generation. They are the future. It is not about you. Let them shine in their moment of glory. You are here to empower them. Empowerment means to guide them but let them do it their way and learn and grow along the way.”

Heerraa performing at a birthday party - July 2016

I nodded. I understood… but just because my intellect was okay with it, it didn’t mean my emotions were on board yet. It took a while more for the emotions to catch up. For a mother or a parent who have spent the last umpteen years nurturing, protecting and teaching this child, the sudden turn in roles can be nerve and emotions wrecking.  With understanding of what is happening to yourself , in time, you can choose your emotions and reactions. Letting go is a process. Be it letting go of your child, your importance, your lead role, your decision making prerogative, the limelight or just merely being informed of things and events.

Starting with awareness, then understanding of yourself and the other person, in the process of letting go will lead to a sense of fulfilment and freedom once you learnt to accept and manage yourself… I guess that is true growth … true maturity!

It also reminds me of the Law of Balance. My role as a mother and leader is created and preserved as long as needed and then this old role is destroyed and a new role as friend and guide is created. Nice once you accept and understand it.

Me and Heerraa at her graduation - June 2016

My Siam Reap Holiday - Man vs Nature

This is my second holiday to Siam Reap. My first trip was 9 years ago. I remember how the Angkor Wat fascinated me. I spent hours admiring the sculptures on the walls. The Apsaras especially fascinated me. The grandeur of the ancient kingdom fascinated me. Expecting the same experience this time around I went with Elango, Rammya, Heerraa and Harsha.

I was in for a surprise. I was feeling very disturbed when I entered the Bayon temple, so disturbed that I felt dizzy and did not proceed to go in to admire the sculptures on the walls. I sat down with Elango at the exit while the three of them toured the temple. Puzzled, I asked Elango why I was feeling so disturbed? He asked me what was the feeling that was disturbing me? Still puzzled, I answered, I feel like many people have been forced to live here and do things that they didn't want to do. It's like being held against your will. Being held captive as slaves and entertainers for the king.

Elango then asked me, 'how do you think the kings of the ancient times built this temple?' I answered, 'by forced labour … Invaded the place, captured the locals and held them captive against their wills….. Forced labour …. Slaves.' He then asked again, 'why did the Kings do that? Why did they build such great structures, sacrificing people's lives? think …. mmmm …. It was to show their power … How great they were … Feeding their ego … Under the delusion that their Empire would be there forever. That they would be remembered forever for their greatness…. and that it is was their right to force the locals to build the structures in memory of them. They were taken in by the need to accumulate and build things.

Then Elango asked me to think how this relates to modern day life, my work and me…. mmmm … He explained, I want to do Culture Shaping …however, change is only for those who want it and welcome it. Not for all. For some, they are comfortable with their way of life even if they are complaining about it. Culture shaping is only possible by changing people's habit patterns … Getting them to follow Natures Laws, Give First, Give without expectations, be truthful, do SIEP and stop reacting to their senses, share instead of competiting, look for solutions … all this is only for those who want it … More importantly all these is possible only if I practise it in my life first. People will do what I do, not what I ask them to do. My vibes will attract people who are looking for the change and want to put the change into practice. I nodded.

Then I told Elango about my earlier experience in visiting Angkor Wat and how it had fascinated me and asked him why it was different now. He answered, 'At that time you were PEIS … i.e. your physical senses saw the sculptures and ancient temples, listened to the greatness of the ancient kingdom and your emotions got fascinated. Your intellect amazed at how great the ancient kingdom was. Now, you are less PEIS so you begin to see the stupidity of the whole thing. You began to feel uncomfortable with the forced labour used to build the temple. You began to see that the Kings were PEIS … taken in by their senses and swayed by their emotions … driving the need to accumulate ...to build … to inflate their ego … using others to get what they want .. thinking their power and kingdom will last forever … thinking they will be remembered for their greatness … This will only make them fall harder and deeper down … Then they will have to climb up again'. I nodded, deep in thought. I was amazed at how much I have grown in the past two years.

I also noticed something interesting … the different responses of the Generations. The Gen Y in the group was troubled but they didn't know why. The 'corrupted' Gen Y was fascinated by the architecture just like the Gen X yet they were alternating between thinking it was a waste of resources. Gen Y was troubled and not impressed by the grandeur. Interestingly Gen Z was clear, not emotional but objectively thinking how not to repeat this stupidity  … Not build structures but live with nature, creatively!

Next we went to Ta Prohm Temple (or better known as the place where Angelina Jolie shot the Tomb Raider scene). The tree roots were engulfing the temple roof and walls … Nature was literally reclaiming its place. The ancient majestic temple was slowly but surely being turned into dust and dirt. I stood there gaping at the monstrous roots fascinated by the power of the trees, witnessing a tiny bit of nature winning in the end, witnessing the fallacy of man, thinking he can build something that can last forever, thinking that he can be immortal through the legacy he leaves. This reminded me of the current generation of baby boomers and Gen X who accumulate power, money and fame, building legacies to leave behind, thinking that they will be remembered, only to have it crumble to natures forces in no time.

Later in the day when I visited the Angkor Wat, I noticed I no longer was fascinated with it. Instead I was thinking what a waste all these was. I was thinking how blessed I am to have grown from being fascinated by the architecture of man to be fascinated by the forces of nature.

Train the Trainer

I was doing a follow-up workshop today when I saw my facebook memory share alert … exactly  a year ago, my mentor and teacher Elango Thiyagu did the first company follow-up workshop with the intention of teaching me how to do it. And here I am, for the first time truly doing the follow-up workshop on my own. A proud moment for me indeed. I have come a long way.

Be At Your Best follow-up workshop for PPG Coatings on 18 March 2015

This isn’t the first follow-up workshop I have done on my own though. The first time was a couple of months ago when Elango suddenly told me he needs to watch the markets because of the currency volatility and I had to do the follow-up workshop the next day. My mind went like ‘oh…. Noooo’ but I heart said ‘okay’, so I did it. It was an awesome learning experience. I would term it as a success. Hey I can do this.

Then there was this other time, the night before the workshop he got sick, fever and shiver and all when he asks me .. “tomorrow’s workshops you do ah?” and I reluctantly nodded. Then scramble and prepare and do the follow-up workshop. Another awesome learning experience! Another success! After that I got smarter and volunteered to do most of the company follow-up workshops. All different experiences … yet successful in delivering the intended message. Getting better with each workshop.  All in all I’ve done 7 workshops to-date. Today was two continuous  8^th and 9^th workshops. So why was today different? Why am I saying for the first time truly doing the follow-up workshop?

Today I was doing the workshop without any disturbance from my senses with my mind firmly focused on my end goals. No battle with myself. I was having fun. My newly programmed subconscious mind was sharing experiences from a few years ago, from a few weeks ago, borrowed experiences, personal experiences, work experiences, experiences of doing my best, experiences of practicing SIEP and so on … it was on a roll, going with the flow … and I was having fun … picking the correct amount of information and examples the participants needed to understand the concepts and put it into practice…. high energy from within, irrespective of what the participants did or said.

Be At Your Best follow-up workshop for Secure Guards on 18 March 2016.

Today I understood why Elango said I need to practice SIEP, giving my best without expectations, give first, be truthful, thoughts, words, actions aligned, do the relaxation exercise, have end goals, focus on solutions, respect and work with the laws of nature … basically practice all these first to a certain extend before I can do the classes.  [for people who have no clue about the jargon I am using , well come for our next Be At Your Best program to find ou] For the first time I see how Elango has been training me over the past two and half years to do the training program.

You see, when I told him I wanted to do the program more than 2 years ago he answered, “Okay. I’ll teach you. Are you willing to learn?” Confident was my reply ‘Yes’. Then for the next few weeks we had weekly meetings talking about everything except the  program. We talked mostly about myself. I did wonder  when was he going to talk about the program. I was expecting him to tell me the layout, training module , training plan etc. Every time I brought the subject of the program up he will avoid it. I was a bit confused on how was this teaching me how to do the workshops but I trusted my teacher and went along.

Then one day he said I need to meet as many people as possible so that my subconscious mind can learn. Mmmm… how was I going to do that? He suggested that I do a 1 day program. I thought it was a good idea too and came up with a one day program on goal setting. Then came the difficult part, how do I get participants for the 1 day program? I needed to do marketing but had no clue where or how to start!

Getting a bit desperate now, I talked to a wise young girl about this and she asked why should they come? They need to see the need for it first. Mmmm… so I thought I’ll design a questionnaire and go survey people in the malls. There started my mall walks! I remember on my first day, I had lunch with my mentor. The experience of the mall survey was overwhelming I just sat there and cried and cried. He passed me his handkerchief, bought me lunch, listened to my experiences and realizations about myself and told me he was proud of me.  Then at 2 pm he asked me to go back to doing the surveys. I stared at him in shock but got up and went back to doing the surveys.

I started surveying random strangers in malls for a few months, with a lot of resistance and non-consistency in the beginning until later it turned into a daily activity which I started enjoying. I started enjoying having conversations with random strangers. Everyone was a reflection of myself and with the help of my mentor I started getting to know myself better. I did over 100 surveys. Then came the second part, calling them up and signing participants up for the 1 day program. Again, a learning curve of falling sick when I make calls to enjoying talking to people on the phone. Then I did my first 1 day program, then the second, then the third and fourth.

1:1 meeting with my mentor during ET Ideas Tuesday meetings.

Then one day during ET Ideas Tuesday meetings [www.ET-Ideas.com], Elango was telling someone that he will teach him to do his program in his country in Sudan. You should have seen my face. I went ballistic! I confronted Elango on why he has not taught me on how to do the program yet. He laughed and replied he has been teaching me all along and testing to see if I really wanted to do the program. I replied ‘Yess!!’ to which he said okay let’s schedule a date, you get the participants and I’ll do the program which you can video record and learn. However, only today did it fully dawn on me that in our many meetings, the surveys, the phone calls, doing my 1 day program and working with the ET Ideas team in other projects he was actually teaching me how to do the ‘Be At Your Best’ program [www.globetrotterconsultancy.com.my]. He was teaching by getting me to correct my habit patterns, do SIEP and manage my emotions, give first , do my best, repeat my goals, learn how to do marketing, have end goals and numerous invaluable lessons regarding my subconscious mind, listening to my heart and achieving success which I will come to share to my participants when I started doing the ‘Be At Your Best’ program.

Be At Your Best Public Program - 2014, 2015 & 2016

We did the first ‘Be At Your Best’ public program in October 2014. In 2015, we did the second public program and 3 Corporate Programs. In Q1 016, we did the third public program and another Corporate Program. Gradually I have started doing the follow-up workshops as mentioned earlier. So why was today’s workshop truly successful?

To an extend it was because in the past two weeks I have actually started doing SIEP correctly and responding to situations and people instead of reacting to what my senses picked up. I was actually thinking and responding. It was slowly becoming a habit pattern. Hence, when I was doing the workshop today, I was not reacting to what my sense saw or heard. Eg. it didn’t bother me that some of them looked sleepy, some were on their phones, some were busy talking among themselves. My mind was so firmly focused on my end goal of delivering what the participants need and getting them to understand how to put it into practice that what my senses saw didn’t bother me. I didn’t have to use willpower to focus. It came naturally. Gradually, my participants engaged and I achieved my end goal, effortless while having fun. This, I could do only because who I have become. Today I fully understood how Elango has been teaching me and preparing me from day 1 to do this workshop. I understand why if I don’t live it I will not be able to conduct the program.

I have a long way to go but now I feel the extent to which I have grown in a short period of 2 years and I am grateful and thankful to Elango for guiding me patiently and not giving up on me. I am also thankful to nature for bringing me to Elango and the ET Ideas team. I would not have seen the bigger picture of life, my purpose of life if not for them..... and having so much fun too!

Outing with the ET Ideas team.

My Boracay Holiday – Lessons on being Selfish vs Selfless

This morning I woke up and my heart wanted me to write this blog. My mind was protesting that I don’t have time, I need to get ready for my appointment, I need to dry the laundry and a few other things in my ‘to do’ list … but my heart insisted, so here it goes….

Exactly a week ago Elango, Rammya and I were on a flight to Boracay, a really beautiful island in Philippines [a must go destination]. It’s a four hour flight so we all fell asleep for awhile and after the meals were served we had this mind blowing conversation which to me was like one of the most important lessons I have learned. To understand the conversation, I need to flash back to incidents that happened two weeks ago ….

On the flight to Boracay - 8 Jan 2016

I love working with people, sharing my relevant experiences as they grow, sharing the lessons I have learnt, helping people see a different perspective, solutions …  guiding others do SIEP*, showing people how the laws of nature is at work [www.ascendancepro.com] etc. However, a week ago as I was working with someone, it triggered my own emotions, I did SIEP and was okay for a while but then something else triggered me again and I got sucked into the world of wild emotions again and this repeated a few times until I could no longer do SIEP and lost all rationality. This really scared me and my mind said I am not stable myself, not consistent in doing SIEP and managing my own emotions; hence I am not ready to work with others yet. Another huge concern was I was working on my goals to do the ‘Be At Your Best’ program and being in a negative emotional realm will slow or even derail that. I told my mentor, Elango this and he agreed. He asked me to immediately stop working with anyone on emotional matters and only focus on my goals. My mind was happy. I immediately snapped out of the emotional whirlpool and could focus on my goals again. Convinced I was at that point that I had made the right decision.

The next few days were simply awesome. I was super focused on my goals. I set appointments with CEOs easily for the next whole week! Participants called me to sign up for the ‘Be At Your Best’ program. Anyone who called me to seek help on doing SIEP and managing their emotions, I asked them to talk to Elango. I was only focused on achieving my external goals. Along with successes I was having in marketing and signing up participants, some strange incidents started happening. One example was, in my meeting with one MD, an elderly gentleman; he suddenly was diverted into talking about his sexual problems which was totally not related to the topic of managing emotions. This took me aback but I managed to steer the conversation back to managing employee emotions and the ‘Be At Your Best’ program. However, this troubled me and I was asking myself ‘how did I attract this conversation?’ I told Elango this and he said, “Interesting …  we will talk about it later”. A few other incidents like this took place and again I was wondering how am I attracting all this unwanted conversations, situations and people.

Back to our conversation on the flight to Boracay …. Elango dropped this bombshell on me …  I had attracted the unwanted conversations, situations and people when I started focusing only on achieving my external goals and stopped working with people, I was being selfish. This strengthens my old subconscious programming and it presents people and scenarios that can take me on a downward cycle. In the past week, my old subconscious programming had built back the layers and is now stronger. I went palm to face and was dumbfounded.

He then explained, working with people … sharing your experience and helping them with the intention for them to grow is being selfless. Yes, it triggers emotions but that is how you learn how to manage your emotions and do SIEP better. This is how you grow. Since my goals now is to be happy, heathy and earn $$$, it strengthens the new programming of wanting to be happy.

Oh damn … I was tricked by my mind … but it was a very good learning experience. I have often wondered why I was finding it difficult to achieve my goals this time around albeit with Elango’s guidance. In the past I have achieved my external goals … my study goals, career goals, financial, family and relationship goals.  Now I understood that this time around my goal is to be happy and achieve my external goals. This requires a lot of clean-up within me, old habit patterns, old subconscious programmings and building new ones aligned to being happy. This time, I am growing inside and then only outside. This takes time and lots more effort in the initial stages. I was glad of the lesson I had learned and convinced more than ever on the current path I have chosen. Being selfless is the only path to personal growth … to know who I am?

Rammya and I exploring the beautiful beaches of Boracay - Ati Athihan festival parade in the background.

Rammya and I chilling out by the beach in Boracay

Over the next few days we had lots of fun exploring the white sandy beaches of Boracay. Many times I saw how strong my old subconscious programming had become. Thank you to Elango and Rammya, both took turns helping me snap out of it … to do SIEP … and we had an awesome holiday.

Dinner by the beach on our last night in Boracay.

On the last night during dinner, I brought the topic of being selfless up again. I asked Elango, how do I know what to say to someone to help them? How do I know that I am not causing them more harm? To this he answered, “Have it in your heart to genuinely help others, to see them grow and be happy and your heart will guide”. He gave a few examples of how I thought I was being selfless when I was helping others but my old sub had hijacked it by using certain words and gestures and made it selfish to take care of my own interest as was my earlier programming. He cautioned me to beware of what my old programming can do and gave me examples on how to say the same things but with a selfless effect. I nodded in silence, absorbing the very important lessons.

In a nutshell, the point I am trying to get across is that, achieving success externally is easy but achieving success and being happy, i.e. growing from within is difficult but it’s all that matters in the end!

*SIEP is the correct way of thinking to manage emotions and respond to people, events and situations instead of merely reacting. [www.globetrotterconsultancy.com.my]