Classroom was Bon Jovi concert.
I missed the concert 20
years ago and ever since felt like I have missed something. I was excited and
restless at the same time. Bon Jovi comes on and a few minutes later I turn to Elango
and said in amazement, “It’s a hook!” Elango smiled and answered, “Not bad.”
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| Bon Jovi live in KL on 19 Sep 2015 |
By now you must be wondering what the hell I am talking
about? Well, hooks are emotional
references your subconscious makes to keep you hooked on to the past; a past
incident or relationship. Hooks prevent you from living in the moment. Hooks
ensure you don’t completely move on and it defines your future perception and
relationships.
In this case it was a hook made a long, long time ago, in my
teens. Bon Jovi. I met the girls’ dad when I was 16, and the first time I met
him, he was performing on stage with his guitar. To me, he looked like Bon Jovi
although I was not aware of it. A few years later, it developed into a
relationship. Elango pointed out on how the relationship started PEIS, i.e. the
physical senses matched him to someone I admired, the emotions developed based
on that and the intellect rationalised it and I concluded we were ‘a match made
in heaven’. Over the years we had our
song, ‘I’ll be there for you’ by Bon Jovi, which he dedicated and sang to me at
barbeque parties we often had then.
When I missed the concert 20 years ago because he could not
go with me, it created a hook. A feeling of missing, which was very connected
to him. We divorced and went our separate
ways 12 years ago and I thought I was well over him. I didn’t have emotional
connections to him. Our marriage and time together seems like it happened to
someone else.
However, in the few minutes into the concert when I saw Bon
Jovi, it reminded me of him. That’s when it hit me, OMG missing the concert
years ago was a hook on him my subconscious mind had cleverly created. Since I
recognised it, was aware and brought it out to light, the hook loses its
strength. If I was not aware, it would have created a missing feeling for him
and had I not mentioned it to Elango or anyone, the missing feeling will grow
in the dark. Cunning and clever subconscious mind I have.
Elango also pointed out how some of the songs I liked such
as ‘Shot through the heart’ when I sang it with emotions, created strong
programming into my subconscious mind to attract to me future relationships and
scenarios to make that feeling real. He also shared how he used songs like
‘It’s my life’ and ‘Livin’ on a prayer’ to intentionally program his
subconscious mind when he started something new and many were against it but a
few backed him. Elango then pointed out an example of a recent hook I have
created and how to neutralise it when it presents itself again. This gave me
ideas on how I could intentionally create hooks on memories I want to remember
and counter the hooks created by my subconscious mind.
The right way to start off a relationship is by using SIEP
[Spirit, Intellect, Emotions and Physical].
That is when you meet someone and you feel a spiritual connection, i.e.
nature is trying to teach you something through this person, you proceed to get
to know the person well first. You have good conversations with the person for
a few months. The intellect stays objective. By then you will know if this
person is to be a friend or someone you want to have a relationship with. Then
you choose to develop the emotional feelings and proceed into a physical
relationship. This will help you create the right hooks intentionally.
Bon Jovi concert was awesome but the learning I got about
myself is profound and invaluable. Thank you Elango.
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